Free safety lesson

Use a short boundary when it fits

Prepare simple words so you have an option when explaining feels difficult.

Choose words you can use

For an ordinary interaction, you might say: “No, I’m not available” or “I need more space”. These are options, not magic phrases.

Practise gently

Say one sentence aloud on your own. You can speak, write, use a communication aid or choose another approach. Volume and eye contact are not requirements.

If the boundary is ignored

You can consider ending the interaction, moving or asking for support. You do not have to win an argument. Direct refusal may not be the safest option in every situation, particularly where coercion or retaliation is present.

Keep the responsibility clear. These options cannot guarantee safety. Responsibility for violence belongs to the perpetrator. Choose what fits your circumstances.

Source and editorial context

Gracie Global (n.d.) The Empowerment Handbook, introduction by Eve and Victoria Gracie. Supplied copy. Practitioner source; not independent evidence of this lesson’s effectiveness.

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This is an original WSDN educational exercise. It is not an official lesson, certification or endorsement from the source organisation.

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